Stop idealizing, people!

Recently, a ‘Tiger’ lost his way in the ‘Woods’ of sexual quagmire. And this hornet’s nest proved to be challenging to his fans and audience…as much as it was for Tiger Woods!

Disappointed and disillusioned, his admirers saw a hero fall off the pedestal! Sports aficionados were ‘hurt’ by Woods’ extra marital affairs. It was a ‘betrayal’ not just to Elin Nordegren, but to millions of golf enthusiasts across the globe. The breach of trust left his followers shattered!

Who is to blame for this disenchantment? Tiger Woods? Absolutely!
However, there is one more answer to it: his fans themselves!

In today’s world, value systems and moral codes are on the fast lane to degeneration. How far you bank on another person is how far you are prepared to risk your judgment. The more you place confidence, the more fatal your fall could be…when he/she lets you down. Idol, star, beau ideal…are words to be erased off the dictionary of modern characterization.

The unhealthy trend to epitomize another person plagues not only one’s social environment but also one’s personal sphere. A father whom you esteemed, a mother whom you wondered at, a spouse whom you cherished could very well be committing adultery, involved in unbecoming deeds or even be nefarious.

What will you do then? Ventilate publicly, splash it around or simply broadcast it??!! My guess is – a likely NO.

You will begin to internalize the pain caused by such deception. Things will fall apart. Anger at oneself for the misplaced trust can lead to drastic emotional disturbance. Finally, once bitten twice shy, you will be reluctant to pin your hopes on someone else who really could be genuine in character. It turns out to be your loss at the end of the day!

So just stop the adoration that could push you down the path to uncertainty. Believe more in yourself than in others. Maintain a degree of objectivity in your relationships. It’s undoubtedly difficult, but not impossible.

As Lord Buddha preached, suffering has a cause. Let that cause not be yourself.

Ultimately, my words are not to emphasize a dystopian approach, but is just a call to prudence and caution.